Stop looking for “THE ONE” for pity’s sake!


It seems that from infancy (women in particular) are taught that they are only half a person, that another person is needed to “complete” them, that they will be 100% only when another person is in their lives. Is it no wonder then, that many women get engaged and married young, barely out of high school, in order to fill up the emptiness inside?

This kind of pressure on a partner, to be the “other half”, is one of the reasons that many marriages breakup, the pressure to be someone’s “everything” becomes too much, and the partner feels drowned in the needs of the spouse.

Don’t believe for a second that there is only one (otherwise known as THE ONE) person who will love you. That doesn’t even make sense, in a world of over 7 billion people, the chances that there is more than one person capable of loving you is very likely!

Allow a relationship to grow through each of you becoming as whole as possible before you find a partner, then that relationship has a better chance of being a lasting partnership than if you depend on your spouse to fill up your emptiness.

(I’ve been married more than once and the last one is working out because I finally fixed the “holes’ in myself before getting married again.)

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4 thoughts on “Stop looking for “THE ONE” for pity’s sake!

  1. Having read this I believe it was extremely enlightening. I appreciate you spending some time and energy to put this article together. I once again find myself personally spending a lot of time both reading and posting comments. But so what, it was still worth it!

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